Combine the dates and rum and set aside to macerate.
Peel and puree the bananas. Mix in the lime juice, sugar, and vanilla.
Sift together the flour, baking soda, and cinnamon. Mix the dry ingredients into the banana mixture. Stir in the macadamia nuts, coconut milk, and the date mixture, including all of the rum. Bake and unmold as directed in the mai