Lillian Chou is a superb Chinese-American chef who has worked at the famous Le Cirque restaurant in New York as a pastry chef. She told me of a common experience among Chinese-Americans. On the occasion of Ching Ming, a Chinese festival honouring the dead, Lillian would prepare various foods for the feast and picnic with her family. However, she was always reluctant to tell any of her American friends what was on the menu, for fear they would think her a bi
